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Hey there! It’s no secret that cell phones have become an essential part of our lives, and that includes our little ones too. From staying connected with friends and family to accessing educational resources, there are countless benefits to kids having their cell phones. However, being a “cool parent” while setting cellphone boundaries can be challenging. Trust me; I get it! If I could give you a one-size-fits-all answer to that, I would be a happier mom. But let me share what I’ve learned over the years.
First things first, never-ever-ever give in, even when you feel worn down. (Earbuds are a lifesaver in these situations!) Once you give in, you’ve broken the cardinal unspoken rule – “If I whine long enough, my adult will cave” It’s like puppy training; if you let them pee in the house once, it’s game over.Second, if you must give in, at least leave yourself an out. Set conditions, such as, you can use your electronic during XYZ time, after completing XYZ chore/homework. But, make sure you stick to it! Lastly, I recommend micro-giving. Yes, you heard it right! Micro-giving means you intend all along to give something, but you sprinkle it gradually, allowing your kiddo to feel like they’ve earned it while giving you control over the situation. Trust me, every small effort we make towards setting boundaries is an investment in our children’s future.
Here are some important tips to ensure your child stays safe while using their device.
Set parental controls: Use built-in features or third-party apps to monitor and control your
child’s online activity.
Educate your child about cyberbullying: Teach your child about the importance of kindness and
respect online, and encourage them to speak up if they experience or witness any form of
cyberbullying. Really define what is cyberbullying!!!!
Set boundaries: Establish rules for when and where the cellphone can be used, such as no
phones at the dinner table or during homework time and while on a family drive. (enjoy the
view)
Talk about privacy: Remind your child to never share personal information online, such as their
full name, address, or school.
Most Important: Whatever they post online, lives in cyberspace forever!!
By staying vigilant and having open conversations with your child about cellphone safety, you
can help them navigate the digital world with confidence and peace of mind.
Funny things kids do to get their way:
- The puppy dog eyes: Those pleading eyes can melt even the toughest parent’s heart
- The negotiation master: Kids have a way of bargaining and may try to strike a deal to get what they want – “If I finish my homework early can I play on my phone” or
- The guilt trip: “But all my friends have one!”Kids are masters of laying on the guilt
- My absolute favorite!! The sudden affection: Nothing like a spontaneous hug or “I love you” to distract from the “No! Sorry kiddo!” I recommend waiting at least 10 minutes before saying no
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog I hope the information was helpful,
Maechy